BayAreaBloke

Hi everyone - I've followed this discussion here for a while. I now need to decide between two cars - a Q7 and an XC90 - and would really appreciate your feedback. Not trying to start anything, just looking for your take.

I'm coming out of cars like an RS5, M3, X5M, etc. but now need a big family hauler with tons of space for my wife and 3 kids. Of course, I don't want to give up driving dynamics and style either. I'm in San Francisco and will be using the car 60% city, 40% highway.

Here are my two options with my thoughts on each.

Q7 Prestige
Glacier White / Black leather / Gray cloth headliner
20" wheels
Adaptive chassis
Cold weather
Driver assist
Gray oak inlays

Pros: Superb ride, refinement, drivetrain, build quality, 2nd row space
Cons: Exterior looks, cramped third row

T6 XC90 R-Design
Black/ Black leather/alcantara / Black headliner
22" wheels
Adaptive chassis
Vision package
Climate package
Convenience package
HUD
2nd row booster seat
Bowers & Wilkins
Polestar

Pros: Looks, R-Design trim, cargo space behind the 3rd row, 3rd row space
Cons: Refinement, ride, drivetrain

It's almost like they are night and day to each other. I posted this same question on the Swedespeed forum as well to gather as much feedback and help me make a decision.

So, which one would you recommend and why?